Say Goodbye to the People Pleaser
That’s it. I quit.
Today is the day that I let it go.
Today is the day that I break up with the people pleaser in me.
It has been a long toxic relationship. This relationship has robbed me of peace, serenity, and at times…joy.
This relationship has robbed me of the ability to find true value in my own thoughts, opinions, needs, and desires.
This relationship has robbed me of the very ability to consistently be at peace with who and what God has made me.
Most importantly, this relationship has robbed me from true intimacy in the relationship that matters most…my relationship with God. This relationship with the people pleaser in me has robbed me from being totally and completely sold out to Christ.
Today is the day.
Say goodbye to the people pleaser in me.
No longer will I explain my beliefs and from a stance of justification or acceptance, but I will share the simple Gospel of Jesus Christ from a place of love and confidence in Him.
No longer will I accept invitations to parties that I don’t want to go to.. or explain why I can’t attend in hopes that someone will not get angry with me. Someone else’s anger is no longer my issue. My yes will be yes, and my no will be no.
No longer will I explain why my family and I don’t celebrate Halloween in hopes that someone will see that we really aren’t weird. I will share my knowledge of the holiday and how it contradicts the message of the Cross from a place of love.. not justification.
No longer will I say yes to taking on tasks that I know will drain me of all of the time and energy that is so detrimental for being available to my family and ministry, and ultimately to myself.
I finally realized that by pleasing everyone else, my cup became empty, and I had no time to refill it. And I had very little to pour out to others that really needed me.
The toxicity from that relationship with the people pleaser in me began to spill over into the relationships with the people that truly love and value me.
The toxicity from that relationship robbed me of the ability to truly value myself and take care of myself.
The toxicity from that relationship robbed me of the ability to truly serve God with my whole heart without the fear of what someone would say.
“The fear of man is our greatest detriment to knowing and serving God. Only when we lay down our worries about what people think of us and what to expect of others, can God honestly and openly speak into our lives.” ~Elizabeth Alves.
I invite you today, my dear sister, to join me as I say goodbye to the people pleaser in me.
Let’s face it, whether the monster is great or small, there is a people pleaser that lies within all of us.
I invite you today, to join me as I leave this toxic relationship, to experience a deeper relationship with our Lord and Savior.
It may be hard, but it is so worth it.
I invite you today, to walk into the total freedom of being exactly who you are.. naked and unashamed.. loved extravagantly by the Good Good Father…and free to be EXACTLY WHO AND WHAT HE HAS CALLED YOU TO BE.